A Toast to Now

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Happy New Year’s Eve everyone!  As promised the blogging starts today, so if you’ve been following our Facebook page there shall be no more daily YouTube videos with a short sentiment attached. Now there shall be daily YouTube videos inside a blog with a long sentiment attached 😉

Today’s post is going to be a little different from future posts in that we decided to launch on New Year’s Eve expressly to take today as an opportunity to introduce ourselves and what we’re about before expecting everyone to decide they’re up for changing their lives and giving up any vices on the very night that people are indulging in them with the promise of being better tomorrow.  Go ahead and indulge tonight.  As of tomorrow, though, we’re holding ourselves accountable to that doing better thing, and expecting you all to commit to it too.

Our “About” page rehashes the story of how this page came to be, but the more important thing to know is why we’re here and what we hope to accomplish. Recently we came across a quote from Neil deGrasse Tyson, saying “I am driven by two main philosophies: know more today about the world than I knew yesterday and lessen the suffering of others. You’d be surprised how far that gets you.” That one concise quote explains everything we hope to accomplish.  All of the hate, anger, fear, isolation, loneliness, misery, and negativity of the world stems from a place of fear and misunderstanding.  Our mission is to both facilitate the learning that can clear away the fear, misunderstanding, and unknown, as well as helping to facilitate the healing process.  Because no matter where you stand in the world and how good or bad things are they can always be better and there’s always something that needs healing.

We understand that everyone will be starting from different points, that there are people who feel happy and fulfilled and just recognize that they can always add more positivity to the world and their life all through the spectrum to those people who are in severe depression and don’t know what to do with themselves or their daily lives or why to get out of bed.  That is okay.  We are all allowed to share experiences from different starting points and different perspectives and still all work together towards making ourselves and the world better than they were the day before.  Knowing that we’re all starting from different places and all fighting different demons, we’ll be covering a wide range of topics and activities.  This first month as we ease into things we will be utilizing a two-step approach everyday where we have one overarching focus for the day, and a small list of simple daily tasks.

The overarching focus of the day this first month, is going to focus on the New Year’s goals and resolutions we’ve heard from our members or are the most common resolutions made every year.  We want to help you meet your goals, and we won’t ask anyone to do anything we aren’t willing to do ourselves, so I promise we’re in it with you and if we write about it we’re doing it and will chronicle it as we go.  We anticipate to be around for a very long time and have a wide variety of topics lined up to last for many ages, but for this first month of focusing on New Year’s resolutions, you can expect topics covering mental health, physical health, fitness, nutrition, bad habits, good habits, life experiences, and enrichment.

Our small lists of daily tasks may be things that some people look at and think I already do this daily, I don’t need the reminder. That’s an awesome place to be at and if it’s you we’re just going to challenge you to pay extra attention to those tasks that day and see if there’s any thing you’ve overlooked or could enhance in how you’re doing them, but the bigger purpose for that list of daily tasks will be that we know we have some members starting in a place of long term depression for whom these tasks will be monumental accomplishments, and we want to both remind you to do them if you aren’t thinking about them, but also to help you realize that taking things a day at a time and making this one thing better for this one day adds up to an immensely improved life by the end of the month, or the end of the week, or even the end of the day.

It can be so hard to get up and make things happen and find the motivation and the energy when it all feels big and daunting and overwhelming and it doesn’t feel like it matters anyway.  It matters.  Do it for you, but do it for us too.  I come from a place of long term depression, I’ll be fighting daily battles right along with you.  It’ll be easier for me if I have other people committed to doing it with me.

Whether we continue posting the list of daily tasks after the first month or not will be entirely related to your feedback.  If we see positive comments or pictures showing that those things are helping you, we will continue adding those to every post. If not, we’ll assume that you’ve turned them into a month-long calendar and let them go.  We’d rather see the positive comments and pictures 🙂

Apart from that list of daily tasks, every day will either have something to learn or something to do or both.  What we ask from you as followers (or what we consider members, because although this is a blog we do truly consider this a journey we’re all in together) is that you hang in there with us and have faith.  Do the daily tasks or the daily reading and have faith it will serve to your benefit, whether you think it applies to you or not. You can never be too healthy or too educated.  If it sounds simple, do it.  If it sounds boring, do it.  If it sounds hard, whine about it and then do it.  See if by the end of the month some part of your life hasn’t improved.  If even one thing is better than where it started we’ve met our goal.  Stick with us, as long as there’s internet to write it on and someone to do the writing, we’ll be here with you, still getting better day by day.

There will be times that you may need to pick up something you don’t already have to accomplish the day’s task. A trip to the library or the grocery store or what have you. So if you like to be prepared in advance to participate in things on the day they’re posted hop on over to link in the top menu that says “Things You’ll Need” and we will do our darndest to have that calendar filled out in advance for you to take your time to acquire any items needed to accomplish the things we have planned.  If you prefer to be surprised and run a day behind or shop day of then that’s okay too 🙂

Whenever you find us works for us, you can start here at the beginning and work through or start wherever we’re currently at and never ever feel like a post is too old to comment on. We want to hear about your triumphs, your victories big and small, your ridiculous mishaps (we’ll have them too, I promise!), and your struggles.  We want to cheer you on, but we also want to help you get back up. We want to know when something helps a lot so we know what works, and we want to know when you need more help with something so we know to double down hard on it.

If you’re finding us through the blog please feel welcome at our Facebook page, where we will also be posting a featured “Question of the Day” to get our brains engaged and to learn about each other and bond as a community.

Beyond that, we’re looking forward to a happier, healthier, more loving, more compassionate 2017.  As the great Miss Judy Garland said up there at the top of the post “We have a whole new year ahead of us and wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all be a little more gentle with each other, and a little more loving, have a little more empathy, and maybe – next year at this time – we’d like each other a little more.”  It may not have been the popular trend for a few years, but we love the idea of liking each other more.  We hope you do too.  The world is a happier place when it isn’t populated by enemies.  So, while today is your free day to have a last hurrah with all of those vices before we start trying to change anything, we have one small list of tasks for today that we’re going to ask you all to commit to:

Smile. At everyone you see.
Say hello or good morning or give a friendly wave to strangers you walk past while you’re out in the world.
Wish people a Happy New Year.
Say please.
Say thank you.
Say you’re welcome. Not “sure”, “no problem”, or “uh-huh.”  You’re welcome.
Say excuse me or pardon me.
Use a designated driver or a cab.  Lots of places provide free rides on drinking holidays. Be safe. Even if you can’t find a free ride a cab is infinitely cheaper than a DUI, insurance claims, or funeral expenses.
Incorporate some pork or some black eyed peas into your dinner tonight, they’re both known to give you luck in the year to come!

A word about music:  We include songs for a reason.  Music helps us deal with the world, helps to soothe the soul, and gives us something else we can focus on when everything is too much.  Listen to the songs we post. Even if you already know them. Listen to them like you don’t. Pay attention to the lyrics. Pay attention to what the instruments are telling you. They all have a message, they all have a purpose, they’re all chosen for a reason.  If you like the song, please support the artist by purchasing the MP3 or Album that features it.

Today’s music can be found on Amazon.com:

MP3: Same Old Lang Syne

Album: The Very Best Of Dan Fogelberg

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2 Replies to “A Toast to Now”

  1. Thank you for caring. Thank you for putting positive energy out into the world. Thank you for creating a community. Thank you for sharing your talents and vision. Much love and joy to you!

  2. Good Morning and Happy New Year 😁 Totally agree with R. I truly appreciate all the time and effort you are putting into helping others, as well as yourself. I love that this is not a Do as I Say, Not as I Do blog but a blog where you Walk the Walk and Talk the Talk !!! Wishing you great success and look forward to taking this journey with you.

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