Today’s popular New Year’s resolution, is that many people make the broad sweeping resolution to “Enjoy life to the fullest” or “Live life to the fullest.” Of course what that actually means is subject to interpretation and hardly quantifiable as a resolution that can be determined as having been achieved. I’m gonna talk about it anyway.
Today, in my Facebook newsfeed I came across this:
Now that we all feel warm and fuzzy, let me explain why it’s crap. No, it’s not a race and you don’t have to do things because everyone else is doing them when you aren’t ready to do them or don’t want to do them. But life is finite and there are some things you do have to accomplish by a certain age or resign yourself to the fact that they aren’t going to happen.
Married with kids by 25 is pretty reasonable if getting married and having kids is something you want to do. You’ve had a quarter of a century of doing your own thing, if you want to start doing a family thing then make it happen. If it’s not something you want then don’t sweat it, but if it is then get married and have some freaking kids while you’re young enough to keep up with them and definitely before 35 when the “high risk” label is slapped on every possible pregnancy you might have. That’s a race against biology and your ovaries. It sucks, but it’s a fact of life.
16 and never been kissed? Well, I don’t have an answer for that one. On my 16th birthday my grandmother called me and said “Sweet 16 and never been kissed, right?” and I had never heard that expression before in my life and was trying to wrap my brain around it and said “I guess.” and got back a very upset “What do you mean you guess? You better not have been kissed!!!” -_- Kissing is a normal part of relationships. Even young ones. Don’t feel like you have to kiss someone you don’t want to, but don’t feel like you have to hold yourself to this standard of purity either. If there’s somebody you want to kiss and you’re 13 or 14 and you like each other then freaking do it. Waiting till you’re old enough to start over thinking and worrying about what if I don’t do it right is a crap situation to put yourself in, and having your first kiss with someone you don’t like is a crappier situation.
Graduating from college by 22 is a pretty good expectation. It pretty much means you don’t have to spend the rest of your life living on minimum wage and if you decide you want to go back to school for something else then you can do that and still have that degree and all those credits in your back pocket and still be working a higher paying job that you’ve been saving money from while you figured out what you wanted to do, and aren’t just starting school as a full fledged adult lost in a world populated by kids fresh out of high school and feeling both superior in knowledge and inferior in fitting into the environment and just kind of lost. If you needed a year between high school and college to figure things out then that’s just fine, but that gives you to 23. Don’t be the 34 year old blog writer with 2 community college classes under her belt and a long line of underpaying retail and call center jobs.
Are you a failure if you don’t have your dream job by 30? No. If you know what your dream job is and aren’t doing anything towards acquiring it by 30 and have no action plan, then you’re a failure and you need to figure out that situation and change it. You don’t have to stay a failure.
You don’t have to be a phenomenal success at every aspect of your life. If you’re working your daily grind job to get by and support your family, then go home to that family and love every second with them, you’re living life to its fullest. If you don’t want kids and want that amazing job working at NASA or owning your own restaurant or climbing the corporate ladder and making your way to the top then you’re living life to its fullest. Unless you already had kids before deciding you didn’t want them and wanted to put in all that time at work and status and title. Then you’re just kind of a jerk. You don’t have to be a phenomenal success at that dream you poured yourself into either. Not every actor is going to make it big in Hollywood. We have local theaters and productions for a reason and you’re still getting to do what you love and be a performing artist.
If you want to ENJOY life to the fullest, then you have a bigger task ahead of you than living it to the fullest. You’ll want to have that family you love, or group of friends you love if family isn’t for you, and that job doing what you love, and still be able to find a way to experience variety and luxury every day in some regard. That means turning off the tv and figuring out what it is that you would enjoy experiencing and getting out there and doing it. That’s where we’re stepping in to say “Us too! Let’s do this!” and that is the overall point of this blog. We want to enjoy life to its fullest, and we want you to enjoy life to it’s fullest too, so we’re gonna do it together incase anyone doesn’t have those ideas of what it is they would enjoy experiencing, or needs motivation to turn off the TV, or doesn’t have that loving family or loving group of friends to share those experiences with. You’ve got them here, we want to share them and we want to know that you’re enjoying life as much as we are.
Tricked you, didn’t I? Normally a song means the end of the post, but today there were two that I needed to put in for my own reasons, and this one is relevant to this paragraph. We’re not going to do any research for today’s blog, because this is one that truly does mean something different to everyone so we’re just speaking from the heart. But what we want you to take away above all else today is that to live life to the fullest or enjoy life to the fullest, the thing you need to focus on is loving to the fullest. Find love, give love, get love. It doesn’t matter what kind of love that is or where it’s coming from. It can be romantic, it can be family, it can be friendships, it can be pets, it can be spiritual or religious, it can be through charity and volunteer work. It doesn’t matter. Whatever you’re doing, do it with love. Whoever or whatever you love, find time to just love them every day. You don’t have to do anything more than that. Just make time to love them. It’s not about going skydiving or riding bulls or climbing mountains or anything else but experiencing love. And in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.
Today’s little list of tasks:
Put that lotion to more good use and give your hands a thorough lotioning. It’s winter, they get dry. Give ’em some love. If your nails need cutting or filing or any of that take care of them too, but make sure your hands get some moisture, and give them a chance to let it soak in. We don’t let our hands rest and be still enough. Give them a break for a few minutes.
Wash your dishes. All of them. Find every glass and every mug and every plate that you’ve accumulated around the house and get em into the dishwasher, along with everything that’s been sitting in your sink or stacked up on your counters. Every single dirty dish you have, get it clean.
If you got access to a pool like we’ve talked about go for a swim, and treat yourself to a sit in the hot tub or whirlpool. If you haven’t been able to get any such access then do another form of cardio, like go for a light jog or brisk walk, and get into a hot bathtub to let your muscles relax.
Lastly, it’s Friday the 13th, and a full moon. If you have a lucky anything, carry it with you today, and stay in tonight if you can. Friday the 13th by itself doesn’t phase me much. Combine it with the craziness of a full moon, look out.
A word about music: We include songs for a reason. Music helps us deal with the world, helps to soothe the soul, and gives us something else we can focus on when everything is too much. Listen to the songs we post. Even if you already know them. Listen to them like you don’t. Pay attention to the lyrics. Pay attention to what the instruments are telling you. They all have a message, they all have a purpose, they’re all chosen for a reason. If you like the song, please support the artist by purchasing the MP3 or Album that features it.
You may not understand the significance of the second/closing song on today’s post, and that’s okay. I know we always try to tie everything together with a relevant song, and hopefully that Beatles medley accomplished that with The End, but both Golden Slumbers and Dream a Little Dream mean something very personal to me about love and enjoying every moment of life, and today they would have been here regardless of topic, because every now and again I’m going to allow myself some little emotional indulgences. That’s all you need to know, is that while life is finite, love isn’t, but bask in its glory while you have the opportunity.
Today’s music can be found on Amazon.com: